|I want to talk about the concept of
"flirting", and why it's SO important that you understand
exactly what it is and how to do it with women.
To begin with, women know what flirting is, and
they respond VERY differently to flirting communication than
they do to typical social communication.
If you understand flirting and sexual tension,
you can begin conversations with women and have them INSTANTLY
feeling ATTRACTION for you.
If you DON'T understand how flirting and
sexual tension work, then you're either going to have to become
famous or make a LOT of money to be successful with women.
I'm going to suggest that you learn how to
flirt well, then do it RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING in your
interactions with women to SET THE RIGHT TONE.
Think of flirting like playing.
Remember when you were a kid and you used to
"play fight" with your friends?
What's the difference between "play" wrestling
and "real" wrestling?
And how do you know the difference when it's
happening... when your friend runs up and pushes you down, then
jumps on you and tries to pin you?
The answer is YOU JUST KNOW. It's obvious to
humans (and other animals, by the way) when someone is "playing"
and when they're serious.
Flirting is similar.
If you start talking to a woman and say "Hi,
you're very pretty. You probably have a boyfriend, right?" in a
normal tone of voice, you're NOT flirting.
On the other hand, if you say "Hi, I realize
that you're probably shy because you get no attention from
men... so I thought I'd come over here and pay attention to
you..." it's OBVIOUS that you're not being serious. This is
By the way, flirting IS NOT simply telling
jokes, or trying to be "cute".
One of the concepts that I teach is called
"Cocky & Funny."
Cocky & Funny is simply a powerful,
concentrated way of flirting and creating sexual tension with a
specific kind of humor.
It's so funny to me how some guys write in
because they "can't see themselves being Cocky & Funny around
women" because they don't want to come across as jerks.
This really cracks me up... because it's
obvious to me that these guys JUST DON'T GET IT.
So let me explain this whole thing a different
If you know how to communicate the right way,
women will respond to you RIGHT FROM THE BEGINNING with a HIGH
LEVEL of sexual interest and ATTRACTION.
When you know how to incorporate flirting in a
Cocky & Funny way, which is really a form of "adult verbal
play", you tune in to a certain frequency in a woman's mind, and
cause her to go into a very special kind of emotional state.
One of the keys to effective flirting is to
"get it". In other words, you have to actually get out there and
practice so you get a "feel" for how it works.
I think a lot of guys give up when they try a
cute line or technique and a woman responds by saying "You're a
loser." Instead of just realizing that they need more practice
or that the woman might have just been in a bad mood or even one
of those horrible "I don't have a sense of humor" cases, they
take it personally and decide to just have it mean that they're
But take my word for it... once you learn how
to flirt effectively and communicate in the language of "adult
play" you WILL SIMPLY NOT BELIEVE how women will respond to you.
Here's an example of some of one of my
favorite topics to "riff on" when flirting... the topic of
getting married and us being in a relationship... and I'll give
it to you in the form of a sample dialogue. Keep in mind, I
might have a conversation like this one with a woman that I just
met five minutes earlier...