Character changes may be needed. You may have to stretch your present limits to find out what your true capabilities are. If you believe that you currently exemplify the model of greatness then I congratulate you. Please realize though, that you are always capable of more. This is an ongoing process of strength and love. This is sometimes physical strength but primarily mental and emotional muscles.
Spiritual growth is also required. Ask yourself, "What am I capable of?" What is your answer? Decide that whatever your answer may be that you are willing to push that answer to a greater level. You must be willing to stretch. Wishy-washy efforts will not produce results. You are expected to push yourself, not only by myself but also by your partner and anyone else who may have an interest in the future of this relationship. What are you willing to do? Before I asked what are you capable of, now I am asking about your level of willingness.
You need to expect a certain amount of suffering on your part. Growth always involves a certain degree of pain. Anything less than I'm willing to do whatever it takes attitude will hinder your progress.
Be clear about this. Do not monkey around with this initial groundwork. I specialize in helping couples in the worst kind of shape. I know what I am talking about. So do not argue, just commit yourself. Achieving greatness also asks the question, "How much are you willing to commit to this relationship?" This question separates the serious ones from the big talkers.
Unless you are willing to commit the overwhelming majority of yourself to this relationship then you will not get your breakthrough you desire. You must be willing to get hurt. The risk is always present anyway but when you open up your heart to new standards, you can get hurt. Your partner may not be as committed as you are but do not let that hinder you. I'm not so much asking that you commit everything but I am suggesting that your commitment range be from 80% on up. Pushing yourself beyond your present limits requires that I come back to a previously asked question but with greater expectation.
What more are you capable of? When you think you have given all that you can, you must ask yourself, "Is there anything else that I can do?" Do you have greater efforts within you?.
Mark Webb is the author of How To Be a Great Partner and founder of Partner Focused Relationships. Sign up for Mark Webb's "Relationship Strategies" Ezine ($100 value). Just visit his website at http://www.powerfulrelationshipadvice.com or http://www.therelationshipspecialist.com.